What pattern of behavior are you repeating from your early examples of relationship?
The nature versus nurture debate clearly identifies that both influence our behaviors. Nature is defined by our genetics and determined by our biological birth parent’s genetics which has also been influenced by their ancestors. Nurture is the influence of others on self: families, schools, your spiritual group, community, media, government.
We are left powerless in regards to our genetics although we can educate ourselves on the various challenges one may experience from genetic influences and empower self to discover and adopt strategies to live well. Reflection is part of the educational process when examining influences of nurture, as well as an accurate self-assessment.
Today I found myself reflecting on the rituals my partner and I have established. One of the ways we express our love for each other is with a kiss when connecting or departing. There are others of course but this behavior is consistent and has meaning.
My parents had their own rituals, one was the kiss hello and goodbye as well as Dad's lunch box.
While growing up I observed my mother and father engage in rituals they defined for their marriage. As the youngest of three, I was present in the home when dads job did not have him away or working long hours. For years it was not unusual to have Dad arrive home after I was in bed and get up and go back to work before, I got up.
Every time dad came home, he would greet mom with a kiss placing his lunchbox and thermos on the counter. Dad always screwed the top off the thermos, as screwed on tighter than could be managed by mom. Mom would then systematically clean the items and prepare them for there next use. I knew Dad was home if the thermos and lunch box was on the counter, getting up or coming home.
Do you reflect on how your nurture has impacted you? Is there a behavior you engage in because of your genetics (nature) or upbringing (nurture)? Are you sure? Discuss with others or read an article/book on the nature vs nurture debate! If you do you may have a different perspective, thus the great debate.
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