What holds us back?
Fear holds us back, three in particular:
I ask you to think about and jot down goals/objectives you have set for self over your lifespan. I suggest you take a couple of days to get a real comprehensive list together. Talk to friends and family if you need help. Ask them:
While you have known me what goals or objectives have, I achieved? Are their goals and objectives I have mentioned that I have yet to achieve or haven’t?
When you can’t think of anymore start to review your list. Cross off all of the goals you have achieved up to this point in your lifetime. Take the time to recognize your accomplishments and reflect on the strategies you utilized to achieve the goal.
You now have a list of goals and objectives you still have the opportunity to achieve. Review your list again are there any goals/objectives listed that you truly have no passion for anymore. Cross them off. Finally, cross off any that are not realistic or beneficial to your physical/mental/spiritual/social well-being.
At this point re-write your list with any goals/objectives that remain. Review the list and ask yourself. Why have I yet to achieve this goal?
Is it because I fear I will fail?
We often hear not trying is the failure. Nurtures impact on an individual’s sense of external and internal motivation is important to understand. Individuals may not have realistic expectations when designing goals and strategies or intentionally sabotage any success they may have. Individuals who have repeatedly not succeeded become comfortable within the self-sabotage role while others potentially enable the behavior. We all have our own “shit pile” (link SHIT pile blog) that impacts the way we feel and behave.
Is it because I fear I may expose a weakness?
Trying something new is difficult for everyone. If you remain stuck in a rut you are missing developmental opportunities because you’re not practicing growth mindset strategies. Sydney Crosby reviews his ice time looking for opportunities to improve his play and he wants feedback. We all have challenges, fortunately, you can enhance your chances of health + wealth success. Social + Emotional Intelligence Profiling and Coaching© enhances an individuals or teams Social + Emotional Intelligence (S+EI)© therefore self-awareness, awareness of other as well as self management and effective relationships improve.
Is it because I fear I may discover who I truly am?
Earlier in my life, the fear of failure or having others identify my challenges held me back. At some point I really didn’t care and I accepted myself, fear lost its power.
My “shit pile” has made me stronger and I use that manure to nurture my growth.
Do not give away your power to fear, listen to what it is telling you then set it down and tell “fear” how you will overcome it.
I facilitate coaching to assist the reflection process and peel back the layers to get at the real cause of our fear. We explore the legitimacy of the fear and how twisted thinking may be impacting your perceptives.
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