Individuals with high levels of social and emotional intelligence cope with stress better. Why?
They appear to have a greater number of tools/strategies in their toolbox to access when faced with various challenges. In the "Relationship between general intelligence, emotional intelligence, stress levels and stress reactivity," they concluded, emotional intelligence as a function of our brain is better suited to handle acute stress and perceived stress. IQ, on the other hand, showed no significant correlation.
If you want to decrease your stress enhance your social and emotional intelligence®. Coaching is the most effective way to enhance an individual/teams/families social and emotional intelligence®.
Many studies focus on the impact stress has on our ability to engage and produce in professional settings. We all have seen enough studies and articles to state stress negatively impacts our personal and professional well being. What can you do to protect you and the others who will be living or working with you?
1. Enhance your self-awareness.
Enhancing your ability to identify how you are feeling, in the moment, will assist you to recognize when a timeout is needed. Don't laugh! Kids do not have the awareness yet and we often direct them to take a timeout to cool down before they escalate further. As an adult, if you notice feelings of anger, fear, frustrated or other feelings that may lead you to say or do something you may regret its time to take charge.
2. Don't give away your power!
When faced with an uncomfortable situation that you cannot physically walk away from your going to need to change your mindset fast.
This context/individual/group is testing you. An opportunity exists for you to strengthen self, enhance resiliency and retain your power. Individuals without high levels of social and emotional intelligence are fishing, don't fall for the bait dangling off their hook.
Being aware of the situations that provoke you to react is important as can allow you to practice strategies to minimize the harm of stress
People with higher levels of emotional intelligence are more aware of their feelings, what causes them, and why.
Self-awareness can be cultivated
2. Awareness of others
When we are in tune with self, have control of our feelings and practice personal power we can turn our attention to others emotional well being. Stress impacts the way they engage with others they come into contact. Unfortunately, individuals do not have an awareness of other may choose to personalize the behavior of a co-worker, family member or neighbor. Being able to read a situation appropriately and choose to not get caught up in a stressful situation they have no control over.
Compassion and empathy for another's stressful situation may allow you to avoid negative exchanges. Don't give others your power!
If your beliefs, values or safety is threatened then situational awareness dictates other tactics. Stating you do not agree with another's position calmly and politely is certainly different than a full out yelling match. You want to respond to behaviors not react. Not reacting is so hard particularly with our families. Our families know better than anyone all our insecurities and vulnerability buttons.
Self-awareness and awareness of other can assist you to prepare yourself for the comments and jokes that are likely to pop up. Take control of the situation your previous behavior does not need to be your current.
Stress due to conflict is often because of an individual's inability to truly listen to another. To communicate effectively we need to be able to listen to another person’s perspective, truly listen. We more often than not hear others rather than listen. We may prepare our reputable or our focus is elsewhere. All of us want to be heard!
5. A variety of perspectives exist
If you believe your perspectives and only your perspectives are correct you are going to live in perpetual conflict. Our nature and nurture influence how we view the world. Your view is but one you can have a passion for your beliefs, values and mission in life but it does not give you the right to silence other. Acceptance of self and other is key to enhancing your social and emotional intelligence, diversity makes us all stronger.
Enhancing your self-awareness will allow you the ability to recognize when stress is negatively impacting your physical, mental, spiritual and psychological. If you are not able to find strategies to address the stress asking for help is a sign of integrity. All of us need help throughout our lives a coach or mentor may assist you to develop the skills required to address life's daily stressors without negatively impacting your holistic lifestyle.
“Imperfect Perspectives" will consist of written and video format. The writing and videos will be imperfect as I am the composer and director and I am perfectly imperfect! Be genuine, have the hard conversations and be compassionate to self and other. Be empowered!