As we engage in change or as we support a change in other, we need to practice compassion.
Agents of change study individual behavior, there cause and whether these behaviors are viewed as negative or positive within their social context. Providing self-awareness exercises focusing on, emotional awareness, accurate assessment, and personal power while introducing alternate strategies to fulfill needs is essential to foster growth/change.
As a Social + Emotional Intelligence Certified Profiler and Coach©, providing opportunities for individuals to enhance awareness and practice new strategies in a psychologically safe relationship is a key part of my role.
As we repeat a behavior brain plasticity will allow new paths to develop as previously established behavioral paths grow in. This takes time, three to six months with support and encouragement. Unfortunately, individuals attempting to change behavior, and their supports, often become frustrated early in the process. This frustration often influences us to go back to old habits, compassion for self and other is necessary, to fuel the growth mindset.
Unfortunately those who are closest to us often are those who try and sabotage the individuals trying to make positive changes for their well being. When other in our lives make changes we also must change as well. Think of someone in your life who may have tried to quit smoking, alter their eating habits or exercise. If you smoked with this individual a pattern of behaviour has been established because they are no longer smoking it impacts you and your behavior. Although you may be happy for them how many times do you drop by their office as you head out for a cigarette, Their change in behavior is impacting your relationship with them.
Supporting change is a long term commitment.
The next time you or someone you are supporting tries to make a positive behavioral change remember to keep realistic expectations when putting a timeline on desired change results. Just as a path in the woods takes time to grow in, when not in use, your brains behavioral path will also require time to fill in as you begin a new path. There will be days where you engage in old patterns, this is normal, do not beat yourself up. Recognize the slip and get back on track. As long as you are trying you are moving forward.
Be compassionate with self and other, these behaviors you established may have been repeated for years and years, therefore, don’t expect to change them in only a couple of months. You are worthy, if at first, you don’t succeed, try to figure out what roadblocks you encountered and how to overcome them when you try again. As you make progress celebrate and reflect on why that progress was possible. Every time we set a goal for self and we achieve it we are establishing self-efficacy which also enhances self esteem.
Life is challenging take the time to acknowledge individuals as they try to make positive changes in their life and celebrate daily until the new pattern is established.
“Imperfect Perspectives" will consist of written and video format. The writing and videos will be imperfect as I am the composer and director and I am perfectly imperfect! Be genuine, have the hard conversations and be compassionate to self and other. Be empowered!