Situational awareness is a social and emotional intelligence skill that assists individuals assess social and political currents within various contexts and adjust their behavior accordingly to fit in. In doing so the individual may need to wear a mask as their genuine self/behavior may not be appropriate for the setting.
An individual with situational awareness is able to:
Wearing masks appears to be a social construct but why?
I am afraid to tell you who I am because you may not like who I am and who I am is all I have. John Powell SJ
Fear of judgment and rejection impacts our behaviors we want to be liked and accepted by others. Our desire to be liked by our peers is even more powerful during our pre and teen years. This desire can conflict with our beliefs, values and goals. Being able to identify individual needs and discover strategies to meet these needs, with a harm reduction mindset, is an empowering strategy to overcome challenges.
Unfortunately, I hear too often that emotions/feelings are good or bad. Emotions and feelings are your bodies way of communicating with you, it is essential to take the time to listen to your body, identify what it is your feeling and what has caused the emotion/feeling. All emotions/feelings have value none are bad despite the fact they may make us feel uncomfortable.
You may discover that you experience specific feelings when you are engaging in behaviors that go against your beliefs and values. Knowing you may experience emotions or feelings when not genuine to self may assist you to choose roles within your personal and professional life that are in alignment with your genuine self. These choices may allow you to retire a few masks and be your genuine self more often than not.
The Institute for Social and Emotional Intelligence’s Profile® lists three competencies within the awareness of other-quadrant:
“When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.” Dale Carnegie
“The best job goes to the person who can get it done without passing the buck or coming back with excuses.” Napolean Hill
These competencies determine how we handle relationships. If we are able to be aware of other people’s feelings, needs and concerns we can meet the person where they are at and choose strategies to engage effectively. Individuals who do not have well-established awareness of other often come across as indifferent or uncaring, find it difficult to get things done in social settings and often “pass the buck”.
There are various strategies or developmental tips to enhance your awareness of other to improve personal and professional relationships. You have to be willing to take the first step and reach out for support after that we will walk through the process together. Give me a call!
Emotional Self-Awareness is one of three competencies that define an individual's self-awareness and is important to our mental health well being.
Individuals who are able to notice and label their feelings/emotions due to gut-level instincts or reactions is but one part of being emotionally self-aware. Individuals must then be able to take that awareness and connect emotions/feelings to external or internal influences, and be able to identify the impact emotions have on their mind and body therefore performance.
When an individual is emotionally self-aware, they can tell – in the moment - when they are getting upset and articulate their feelings.
People Lacking this Competence
May receive messages from their bodies such as chronic headaches, lower back pain, neck or shoulder pain, heart racing, sweaty palms, anxiety attacks or other signals, but generally don‘t pay attention to these signals or connect them to their source, to what‘s causing these physical symptoms?
Due to being unable to gain insight and information from what their bodies might be trying to tell them they may get irritated, frustrated or angry easily, causing them to treat people in an abrasive way?
Individuals will often feel stressed and out of balance in terms of their life, health, work and family. This may be due to being unable to recognize individuals are asking them to behave in ways that do not match their values, beliefs or goals.
Here is a peek at an exercise that one could use to enhance their emotional self-awareness.
Stop thinking of your emotions as irrelevant or messy.
Our emotions are an essential source of valuable information they are not good or bad they just are. We are biologically wired to have emotional reactions knowing what it is your feeling and why is a great foundation to build self and managment strategies to attain success.
The Institute for Social and Emotional Intelligence© has several different styles of assessments. https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/social-emotional-intelligence-what-good-charlene
A youth assessment utilizes youth-friendly language and is for individuals who have a grade 7 reading ability although I can read questions to youth who have reading challenges. The links assessment is sent to individuals chosen e-mail account and takes 20 – 25 minutes to complete. Results are sent to me to review, I arrange for an individuals social + emotional intelligence© workbook to be printed and schedule a debriefing session to review results and discuss how to utilize the workbook to design developmental plans.
Individual adult profiles are available in personal and professional and use language relevant to the individuals chosen focus. Participants are provided a link to complete the assessment which takes approximately 20 -25 minutes to complete. Results are sent to me to review, I arrange for an individuals social + emotional intelligence© workbook to be printed and schedule a debriefing session to review results and discuss how to utilize the workbook to design developmental plans.
Leadership Group, Team or Family
Leadership Group/Team/Family social and emotional intelligence results are compiled utilizing all profile results – including any 360 multi-rater profiles. This is a free assessment provided to groups of individuals working together to support each other reach objectives/goals.
A presentation of results and a group discussion is facilitated to assist the group agree on developmental objectives, that are achievable and in line with the values, beliefs and mission of the group. Strategies to assist members achieve their individual roles/objectives within the team are also discussed. Multiple workshop or retreat formats are available to assist groups enhance skills.
Goals and Strategies
Teams or families can design individual and group goals and strategies for the next quarter, year or season. If you are requiring individuals to challenge themselves and lean into the discomfort of change the groups culture must accept mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow. Groups need to provide a culture of psychological safety to support individual and team growth to enhance success.
360 Inter-Rater Profile
A 360 inter-rater Social and Emotional Intelligence Profile© provides individuals, human resources and groups incredible data. With 360 profiles individuals complete an assessment of self but they also ask for feedback from others. What is amazing, a 360 profile has no limit on the number of inter-rater participants.
At times individuals are unable to identify how they are being perceived by others and it affects how they behave. If no-one is sharing with you how do you know to even consider changing the behavior. Most individuals struggle to provide effective feedback, here is a link to assist your awareness, https://www.thebalancecareers.com/good-and-bad-examples-of-feedback-2275923
I arrange for an individual’s social + emotional intelligence© workbook to be printed, these workbooks are large as outline all written feedback from your raters. A debriefing session is scheduled to review results and discuss how to utilize the workbook to design developmental plans.
I believe that feedback is a sign of caring!
We need to change the work cultures mindset regarding feedback. Imagine someone cares enough about you to take the time and energy to respectfully share their perspective.
One strategy to change the cultural mindset of feedback is change the ratio. What do I mean by that? Have a 3-1 rule, every corrective feedback conversation needs to be balanced by 3 praise and/or appreciation feedback moments. I know this takes time but this proactive strategy will save you time, energy and money down the road.
Care enough about the well-being of your team or family before you have to intervene due to a crisis!
As you can see there are a variety of assessments to fit your needs. Now that you possess greater self-awareness and potentially other awareness what are you going to do with it? I suggest a growth mindset approach, look into the benefits of coaching and how I can help you attain your goals!
“Imperfect Perspectives" will consist of written and video format. The writing and videos will be imperfect as I am the composer and director and I am perfectly imperfect! Be genuine, have the hard conversations and be compassionate to self and other. Be empowered!